Waving Red Flags

I think it's pretty evident that trauma changes our brain, changes our personality, changes our everything. And in that, when we move on from traumatic relationships and try to start new ones, whether romantic, friendly, work-related, whatever, we can go far in the wrong directions when it comes to recognizing danger (or as others call it, red flags). That's not to say we are wrong in our reactions, because how we heal is a personal journey and there's no shame in that, but there is something to say about recognizing that it isn't always the most healthy reaction in the long term. What kind of red flag awareness do you have when it comes to relationships? Is everything danger or is your head in the sand? 

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Lies From Within

I realized recently there is huge difference between distrusting others and distrusting yourself. It throws you completely off balance when the words in your own mind that you should know as truth, sound like chaos and confusion. Nothing seems real, truth is lost. In this state, spirals happen FAST. Sounds fun right?

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Building on Broken Foundation

I will never forget the day that my concept of truth and trust, changed forever. The idea that if I just tell the truth, people will believe me and I will have done the right thing. But instead it turned to, the truth is bad and unwanted, I have to say things that are untrue to keep me safe, and those around me are not able to be trusted. Do you have or remember a defining moment that created a sense of distrust in you?

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The Beginning of the End

Core memories shape the way we view ourselves and ultimately the world. They are the foundation of our personality, behaviors, and emotions. So when some of our core memories are full of trauma, it isn't hard to understand why we have traits such as distrust, fear, anxiety, anger, lack of self-confidence. What are some core memories you have that have created the person you are today?

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